Reaction to the Tragedy in Newtown

It's hard to put into words the emotions I have felt these past few days in the wake of the Newtown shootings - some combination of anger, fear, grief, sympathy, and sadness. I keep wondering what might have been missing in that young man's life that led him to act as he did. I wonder what can be done to prevent such an event from happening again.

I find my thoughts keep circling back to relationships. Here at Rivers our mission is to know and understand our students as individuals and help them become their best selves. Relationships are key to fulfilling that mission, and our teachers, coaches, and advisors are adept at connecting with their students, advisees, and athletes in meaningful ways. As we head into the new year and the inevitable resolution-making, I want to focus on being a better advisor; I want to be a better listener; I want to be a better mentor. I will urge our faculty - and you - to do the same. Make those connections with the people around you - those you know well, and those you could come to know better. Listen and respond. We will all be better human beings for it.

Faculty-Student Connections: Rivers' Advisor System

One of the values that defines Rivers is relationships. In fact, relationships are at the heart of the Rivers experience. We believe when students know teachers want them to be successful, and when students know they are valued not as achievement-machines but as multi-dimensional human beings, they are more likely to stretch for excellence and more likely to pick themselves up when they inevitably fall. Relationships provide the grounding for students to explore, try new things, and test themselves. These students know that adults are in their corner, ready to listen, provide feedback, mentor, and support.

Relationships are part of Rivers’ DNA.

Several years ago in an effort to do a better job of promoting relationships, the school undertook a self-examination of the advisor program. We liked our program, but we thought it could be better. We made several changes including adding more advisor-advisee time and one-on-one meetings, introducing parent-advisor conferences, creating advisor-team meetings, and using professional development money to discover best advising practices. These efforts stemmed from our desire to do a better job of living our values. The results have been dramatic. The link below will take you to a video about the Rivers advisor system. Enjoy!

VIDEO: Advisory Groups Nurture Student-Faculty Bonds