Wednesday, May 15, 2013

Coming of Age in Today’s World


I watched the movie, Mud, this past weekend. It's a modern day coming-of-age story set in Arkansas. The main character, a 12-year-old boy, tenaciously holds onto his romantic vision of true love and the sacrifices one should make to achieve that vision. He does this despite the "reality" that surrounds him – his parents’ failed marriage, a "girlfriend" who ignores him, and adults seeking revenge. It’s not necessarily a great movie, but I'm a sucker for coming-of-age stories (I love Huck Finn). I love stories in which young people change as a result of adventures, who by all rights should become damaged goods as a result of these adventures, and yet refuse to give up on the perfectibility of humankind. These stories are the best!

So here's my question – can a young person in suburban Boston have a coming-of-age experience today? Does a 12-year-old in a private school or a suburban public school have enough freedom to actually have a transformative adventure? Are there any Huck Finns out there? We have scheduled our children, tethered them to our cell phones, and planned their lives to the nth degree so there's no room for adventure. The only adventure they see is in the movies or maybe a book. Will global competition, the internet, and hyper-connectivity squeeze out the coming-of-age story? I don't know, but I am worried.