Relationships at Rivers: A Support System for Student Growth

Relationships are a staple of independent school education. Check out any school website, and you are sure to see statements about the close relationships between students and adults. Rivers is no different in its emphasis. However, our school goes a step further than many others, intentionally using the power of relationships to challenge and inspire our students to be their best. This essential Rivers quality was fully on display a few years ago at an Upper School faculty meeting in which we practiced giving feedback to students (played admirably by selected teachers) in the most effective ways possible. Our role-playing exercise highlighted the importance of honest, descriptive feedback directed to specific behavior.

These techniques have proven helpful in our work with students and advisees, but they only have impact because our teachers have established strong bonds with their students. Our advisor program and the connections advisors form with their advisees are direct examples of how relationships serve as the fertile ground that make student growth possible. In addition to frequent one-on-one interactions students have with their advisors, advisory groups meet at least once a week to review academic progress, discuss relevant topics and aspects of students’ lives, or just engage in casual conversation. Faculty members become mentors, role models, guides, and friends.

When students know that faculty members care about them, want them to be successful and value them as multi-dimensional human beings with an array of talents, interests, and personality traits, they will be more inclined to take risks, pick themselves up after falling, get out of their comfort zone, and pay attention to the feedback teachers give them.

In this week's Rivers web story you can read about a remarkable Rivers student, Bruna Lee ’13, who was the keynote speaker at the annual Steppingstone Gala. Her story is compelling, coming to the United States by way of Brazil with her parents who emigrated to Brazil from China. None of them could speak English. Her transition to Rivers was challenging, but adults kept reaching out to her, engaging her in conversation, and encouraging her to get involved. Today, Bruna is a true school leader, a great contributor to our community, and someone who is making a big difference. Moreover, she directly attributes her success to her network of supporters.

There are countless other examples of our teachers reaching out to students to make connections and then using those relationships to mentor their young charges and help them be their best. Relationships at Rivers are not just a "nice" appendage to the serious business of school; they are fundamental to our success with students.