Thursday, January 26, 2012

"Sled Dog Moments"

On Monday Dr. Amy Enright, a member of the Rivers history department, gave a wise and wonderful talk to our students about searching for work that inspires us individually as opposed to fulfilling the expectations of others – work that feels more like play than work. In this talk, she referenced a news story she read last year called “Why Do Sled Dogs Run?” which explored the reasons behind why sled dogs find pure joy in hard work.

Dr. Enright went on to call times of hard, yet rewarding work “sled dog moments” because sled dogs appear to do their work simply because they love it. We tend to lose ourselves in this kind of work and become oblivious to time and our surrounding environment. Dr. Enright implored our students to find these moments in their work.

One of the defining attributes of Rivers is the concern for students' quality of experience. Quality of experience at Rivers means students squarely facing the challenges we put before them and, as a result, finding meaning in successfully meeting those challenges. It means students gaining self-confidence and self-efficacy such that they come to believe they can do this thing called adulthood. Part of this journey is students’ discovery of what they love and what they are good at; herein lies the power of the "sled dog moments." Recognizing those moments - those times when, as Dr. Enright states, "work becomes an expression of self" - is critical to leading a happy, fulfilling, and meaningful life. In turn, it is our job as parents and educators to help young people reflect on those moments, embrace them, and learn something about themselves in the process.

Wednesday, January 18, 2012

Community at Its Best

On Wednesday, January 4, most of the school's students and teachers traveled to Fenway Park to watch the girls’ varsity hockey team play St. George's at Frozen Fenway. It was a great Rivers moment – a shared experience that strengthened our community. This sense of collaboration and coming together around shared experiences is a cornerstone of the Rivers way.

Last Monday, Middle School math teacher Sam Poland spoke to the entire student body about the regret he still feels about giving up his dream of playing basketball in college, even though that decision led him to another activity he found fulfilling: singing. His point was that we need to think carefully about the choices we make, and his speech captured the attention of the entire student body at All-School Meeting that day. It was another shared moment. 

The concept of community can be an enigma. Americans, in particular, extol the virtues of individualism and sometimes chafe against the straight jacket of community pressure. Some American writers have criticized community for creating a culture that stifles the individual. I've seen this happen; I get it. 

But I'm not ready to toss community building aside and label it irrelevant at best or detrimental at worst. I have seen too many instances when community has lifted our students and promoted their growth as individuals: the star athlete who learns the value of teamwork, the senior who shares the poignant death of her father in her senior speech, an upper classman reaching out to freshmen. Community at its best encourages each of us to use our individual leadership strengths and to sublimate our individual wants in order to satisfy our intensely human need for connection. When those connections reflect and support our core values of respect, honesty, compassion, and responsibility, and enhance the quality of experience here at Rivers, how can we not be enriched as individuals?