Excellence as a Means, not an End

Two months ago a distinguished group of eleven educators from independent schools around New England spent three days on the Rivers campus sitting in on classes and interviewing students, teachers, and parents.  Their visit was part of the accreditation process for the New England Association of Schools and Colleges.  The group included the Head of Greenwich Academy, the Head of Milton Academy, and educators from Concord Academy, Hotchkiss, Thayer, and Brunswick Academy. Their final report confirmed what we already know  ̶  Rivers lives its mission.

I wanted to share three excerpts from the visiting committee report because I think they capture the essence of Rivers.

 “Rivers students exemplify the motto “Excellence with Humanity.” Witnessing the dynamics, the casual moments captured as one moves through the campus buildings, the committee saw the warmth of relationships and care and pride of the student body.  From doors held for those who walk behind, the smile and the pat on the back after a brave sixth grader shares herself with the school community, and the willingness to speak up and take a stab at a hard question in class, Rivers students show their embodiment of the values of the school.”

And from another section of the visiting committee report:

“Constituents articulate the mission of the school in deeply personal ways, indicating a strong buy-in to the core values of the school. Students readily articulate their investment in their experience, including ways they have grown in character.  Faculty members are committed to their mission as educators and role models and routinely go above and beyond the parameters of their job descriptions when it serves the interests of their students… the Rivers faculty have distinguished itself not only for professionalism, knowledge, and teaching skill, but also for a collaborative and humane spirit that pervades this school.

“Students and teachers alike spoke with a sense of belonging to a stimulating academic culture, one in which learning is championed even while students are pulled toward extracurricular specialization.  Rivers has not forgotten that the primary academic business of a school is the conversation between teacher and student… In addition to respect, there’s great affection on both sides, too.  Students lavished praise on their teachers.  And teachers did likewise.” 

And finally from another section of the report:

“Faculty feel supported, motivated, and encouraged to teach their passions and to pursue various teaching strategies.  Faculty at Rivers are happy and engaged; they exude a loyalty and admiration for their school, their colleagues, and their students.  Their love of Rives is palpable.”

These excerpts point so clearly to the reason Rivers exists… the why of the school and that is to help students live meaningful lives, lives filled with purpose.

The why of most independent schools is excellence. These schools teach students how to compete, how to win, how to work harder and smarter in this competitive world. For these schools, demonstrated excellence is an end. A graduate of a highly regarded school in the area once told me that he always felt that the question being asked of him while he was a student there was “What are you doing to enhance the reputation of the school?” 

Make no mistake, Rivers teaches students how to be successful, how to work hard, how to compete; we can point to lots of markers of success to demonstrate that excellence is a critical value. Seniors accepted to highly selective colleges, 5’s and 4’s on the AP exams, art and music prizes, athletic championships, awards in Robotics, Model UN, and Debate. We are proud of these achievements.

But these accomplishments are not why Rivers exists.  They are not what fundamentally inspire us to go the extra mile for our students.

Rivers exists for one simple reason  ̶  to help students live meaningful lives, now and in the future. At Rivers excellence is a means, not an end.  We don’t challenge our students for the sole purpose of demonstrating that we have excellence.  We challenge them so that they can learn about themselves, so that they can discover what they are good at, what they love, what they need to work on.  We challenge them so that they can discover who they are and who they want to be.  We challenge them so that they can live lives that matter.

And here’s the kicker. The best way to help students live meaningful lives is to make sure that teachers are living meaningful lives, to make sure that the reason our teachers got into this business in the first place  ̶  to make a positive difference in kids’ lives  ̶  never dies out, that their life purpose is not only valued but constantly nurtured. “Faculty at Rivers are happy and engaged.” That statement from the Visiting Accreditation Committee reflects the school’s belief that people should live meaningful lives. That is why Rivers exists.

 

Sorting Machines

Several years ago the Director of College Counseling and I met with a senior admissions officer at an Ivy League school.  At one point in the conversation she said, “If you want more Ivies on your college list, admit more talent.”  I don’t think I will ever forget that statement.  I understand what she was saying, and I certainly see the validity of her point.  But implicit in this statement is a rather cynical attitude about the value of teaching. 

It’s subtle, I admit, but still, unmistakable – don’t expect your teachers to do more than sort the wheat from the chaff. Insist that teachers throw out the challenges to the kids, and the school will eventually be able to separate the great students from the merely good ones, the athletes who will play in college from the others, and the great musicians from the rest. The role of the teacher is simply to challenge - challenge to the nth degree so that the school can properly sort the students in ways that make it easy for selective colleges to render admission decisions. 

OK, I admit that the above is only a partial truth, but that’s what happens when a school, almost unknowingly, acts as if its sorting function is the most important value.   There are lots of schools - private and public - that would never admit to this uncomfortable truth, but they exist.  Having teachers who inspire, teachers who care, teachers who make a difference, teachers who value students and search for their talents, takes a back seat to the sorting function.  Many of these “sorting” schools veil their ultimate goal with lots of talk about close student-teacher relationships, and there is probably enough truth in these statements to make prospective students and parents feel good about their choice.  But make no mistake; the highest value in the hierarchy of values at these schools is to sort. 

I love teachers and their power to make a difference in so many wonderful ways.  Even as I moved into administration, I was always in awe of the impact teachers had on the lives of students.  I was, to be honest, jealous of these great teachers even in my role as their supervisor.  To become a mere ‘sorting machine” is to denigrate this great profession and limit a school’s ability to value the multi-dimensional glory of each of its students.  May this never happen at Rivers!

Success v. Meaning

I was talking last week to a 2013 Rivers graduate who is doing a gap year before she attends an Ivy League college.  She spent two months in Tanzania, working in a clinic that delivers babies.  She actually delivered four babies herself.  Her experience was transforming.  She now realizes that she can make decisions about her life, that she does not have to follow a prescribed path that leads to “success.”  She may, indeed, end up being “successful” but not at the expense of finding meaning in her life.  We talked and rejoiced at her new-found discovery.
 

As I listened to her story and the epiphany she realized, I could not help but think about the purposes that different independent schools have.  Beyond those schools that have very specific missions like addressing learning issues, it seems to me that most schools fall into one of two categories.  There are those schools that will almost exclusively teach students how to attain success- success as it is traditionally defined- great job, lots of money, financial security.  This is their sole purpose- to teach students how to compete, how to win, how to work harder and smarter than the others.  For these schools, adolescence is a training ground, a sort of boot camp to prepare students for the inevitable struggle that lies before them.

There are a lot of New England prep schools and independent schools in major cities throughout the country that fall into this category.  They are littered with parents who see their child’s success as yet another emblem of their successful lives.  I’m not convinced that these schools chose this path, but saddled with a parent and alumni body that demand the markers of success, they have clearly drunk from the “excellence or else” kool-aid and cannot turn back.

 
There are other independent schools, like Rivers, that teach a different value.  It’s true that that they want their students to strive for excellence; it’s true that they celebrate the excellence that their students achieve.  But the pursuit of excellence at these schools has a different, broader purpose- to find meaning in life.  It’s not that success and meaning are viewed as necessarily antithetical in these schools.  Rather, it’s just that the pursuit of a meaningful life has equal footing with the pursuit of a “successful” life.  At these schools excellence is not just an end; it is a means for finding a meaningful life, a life well-lived, to use Aristotle’s words.

Prospective parents ask me frequently how is Rivers different from the other independent schools in the Boston area.  In many respects it is very similar- similar programs, similar kinds of students, etc.  But its purpose is very different from that of many other schools.  At Rivers the pursuit of excellence is designed to strengthen a student’s character, not have him or her compete for the most prestigious jobs.  At Rivers the pursuit of excellence is designed to help students find meaning in life, not just the “good life.”  To help students find meaning, Rivers’ teachers and coaches know and value each student- not just the student taking four AP classes but also the one who demonstrates real leadership skills or a creative approach to solving problems.  The unique attributes of each of our students, we believe, are critical to their finding meaning in life, not just success.

Adolescence Matters

I often hear prospective parents talk about trying to help their son or daughter find “the right fit” in an independent school. The conversation goes something like this:
 
“Well, I have a daughter who knows exactly what she wants, and she just needs a school that will offer her the programs that will get her where she wants to be. She has all the academic skills and is a great student; it’s just a matter of putting her in an environment of like-minded students who are on the same track. It’s about finding the right fit.” 
 

I nod my head and say, “That’s great,” but I am thinking, “This parent does not have a clue about adolescents or life.  The statement may be a prescription for success, but it is not a prescription for a happy, meaningful life.”

 
So the traditional prep school model is to serve those parents who have children that have already figured life out and are ready to enter the Darwinian competition for success, money, and prestige? Instead of adolescence being a stage in life to explore, to fail, and especially to be loved in the process, at a time when they are most vulnerable, it is, rather, the first step in a prescripted life. It’s as if the kid is saying, “I already figured out my life; let’s begin the race. I’ll start by being with all the other kids who have figured out their lives and are ready to race.”
 

I don’t buy it. Either the kid is going to skip over a very important life process that can play a huge role in her finding meaning in life, or she will become isolated in a cocoon of arrogance, never appreciating the talents (measured and not so easily measured) of others who do not so easily fit the “mold.”

 

Adolescence matters… for every kid! It should not be subverted.

Traffic Duty in the Morning

So why do I direct traffic in the morning?  There is a serious answer to this question, and the answer reflects the school’s educational philosophy. 

First, let me say that it is important to have an adult out there each morning to make sure that the students are safe as they cross the driveway.  And I like waving to the parents who drop their children off. 

But the most important thing I am accomplishing by directing traffic is welcoming students. Sometimes, I congratulate them on a performance or a game or a speech. But most of the time I just greet them, and in doing so, I am signaling to them that at Rivers it is okay for them to be themselves.  Teenagers crave validation (we all do, actually), and once they feel that validation from the community, the building blocks are in place for them to soar. This simple gesture coming from the authority of the school tells students that they can take risks, they can pursue passions, they can go about the business of becoming the person they want to become without worrying about how others perceive them or if they will be judged.

There are schools that motivate students out of fear.  Some motivate through a rigid code of conformity.  Others pit student against student.  Rivers is different.  By signaling to students that it is okay to be themselves, the school creates the fertile ground that then allows our great teachers to work their magic - challenging them, inspiring them, encouraging them. 

So why do I do traffic duty in the morning.  It’s a critical part of the equation that is designed to help students become their best selves, not through fear, conformity, or uber competition, but rather through extending an invitation and making that invitation as enticing as possible.  I think it is the best way to educate children.